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Stephanie Kim's avatar

I LOVE your 7th place ribbon! I grew up in a Korean household where if you weren't first place, then you were last. It was always about achieving, succeeding. Then I had a beautiful daughter with an intellectual disability. It was hard, but I learned to slow down. I warn people about the "H" word. Anytime I would say "hurry," she would lie down on the floor. I have learned to advocate for her over the last 19 years so she won't be pushed to the margins. But that has required me to slow down, to wait and listen, to rest with her. Thanks for your encouraging words. I do love reading everything you write!

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Dr. Emily Smith's avatar

What a beautiful comment! And, thank you for sharing your story about you and your daughter. Sounds like she's in good hands. I really enjoyed hearing your words on all of this too. Thanks for the comment!

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Dana Blanchard's avatar

Thank you so much for these words. You cannot know how deeply they have touched me. They were truly just what I need right now. Now I want a 7th Place ribbon of my own 🤗

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Dr. Emily Smith's avatar

I'm so glad! Maybe I should make the ribbons myself to give out. But I would make them say 17th place because that's even funnier. =) Thanks for the comment.

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Monte's avatar

For heaven's sake make this easier! I am computer literate but heed your 7th Place advice and don't want to spend time figuring out what should be simple! My Substack credit card expired--email me about easy way to fix it or just accept my thanks for your columns from the past!

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Dr. Emily Smith's avatar

Ugh, I've heard from others that it's very confusing to update this! I'm so sorry. Did you figure it out? If not, we can contact customer support.

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Lisa O.'s avatar

It's so frustrating when things are more complicated or not as easy as they feel like they should be! I'm not super familiar with substack, but from what I've experienced it does send an email to update when payment info expires. I also found this link of how to update your payment information. In the Substack app/site click the three lines in the top right corner, scroll way down to find settings, and then payment settings are adjacent to each subscription you have listed (also a ways down in the options on that page). I wish substack made it a little easier, but I hope this helpful.

https://support.substack.com/hc/en-us/articles/360037488632-How-do-I-update-my-payment-information-

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